A Message to Indigiqueer, Two-Spirit, LGBT+
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Anyone can benefit from intimacy coaching. Many times, clients come seeking validation about their sexual attitudes and approach. Coaching could be about gaining more education and experiential guidance in an area that has historically caused the client anxiety and distress.
Like any other type of coaching offered, intimacy coaching is about transformation. Is there something you want in your life -like more sex, eliminating a porn addiction, overcoming anxiety about pleasuring your partner, or transforming a sexless marriage into a passionate one? Sometimes clients just need a guide to help get there.
To name just a few ways, we do this by exploring fantasies and their meaning, foster the expression of quality and quantity of touch, talk about true turn-ons and practicing how to discuss them, work together to discover your self-care style (setting boundaries, fighting/arguing, getting needs met) and how to maintain healthy self-care in your relationship.
Trained under the Life Coach Training Institute, I am now available to provide coaching sessions focused on motivating change and transformation towards your actualized goals. In addition, I have incorporated Gestalt Psychotherapy techniques into my practice to broaden my ability to help clients.
Prices are per hour. Location will always be in a private office, community, commercial setting, or via secure video conferencing.
These days, most sex education classes are designed for teenagers and are focused on abstinence so the materials do not meet the needs of grown-ups. I provide training that is beneficial to any adult. Education is delivered by explicit discussions and demonstrations. Examples--->Basic sex ed: Anatomy, gender, STDs, sex assault prevention. Advanced sex ed: aging and sex, gender differences, power dynamics, alternative lifestyles, and kink. Book me for individual education, or group training.
Relationships are not easy especially when there are so many unexpected and uncontrollable interferences. Together, we can work on how to set self-care boundaries and enforce them. It is also important to seek awareness of unhealthy patterns in relationships. Gestalt techniques can be beneficial in drawing out awareness of the here and now which can show the client that the pattern may be part of an old attachment rather than a reflection of who they are today.
Many times, ruined relationships are just under a hostage takeover by a lack of effective communication. Couples will cite loss of sex, loss of time, and loss of money but the culprit that we the people in this country find the most challenging is effective communication. My entire life has been spent learning how to get to a communicated "yes". For that reason, I have directed the focus of my entire education on effective communication and now I can coach my clients with what I have gained.
A hands-on, natural approach in a community or commercial setting that is mutually comfortable
This is a concern for anyone leaving a long-term marriage or relationship. In some cases, adults that have made an extreme body transformation need some coaching on social interactions with the opposite sex.
This involves some of the verbal coaching first and then when comfort and trust is built, we can move into social situations to practice in a variety of scenarios that may come up which will give the client some power to manage the way they approach possible reactions.
Many times clients are stuck in a rut or feel like there is something wrong with them because they have lost the desire for intimacy. Research shows that introducing touch and smell - sometimes new toys - will be the necessary change agent for the relationship. This type of coaching is best relayed through direct experience therefore we discuss and experiment with aromatherapy, candles, and a variety of sensual skin tools during the session.
On forums that I am on related to sex coaching and relationships, I often hear from couples that have discussed fantasies, many times, almost hinging their desires on the fantasy- and now wish to make it/them real but truly do not know how and it has begun to create conflict in the relationship. Couples can benefit from verbal coaching but also some work with touch, senses and introduction to toys and other tools that can bridge into fantasy fulfillment.
Intimacy Coaching is not psychotherapy or sex. I am not a physician, psychiatrist, psychologist, licensed social worker, or licensed family and marriage therapist. I do not offer therapy, psychotherapy, sex, or medical advice.