Intimacy Coaching

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These days, most sex education classes are designed for teenagers and are focused on abstinence so the materials do not meet the needs of grown-ups.  I provide training that is beneficial to any adult.  Education is delivered by explicit discussions and demonstrations. Examples--->Basic sex ed: Anatomy, gender, STDs, sex assault prevention.  Advanced sex ed: aging and sex, gender differences, power dynamics, alternative lifestyles, and kink. Book me for individual education, or group training. 

Relationships are not easy especially when there are so many unexpected and uncontrollable interferences. Together, we can work on how to set self-care boundaries and enforce them.  It is also important to seek awareness of unhealthy patterns in relationships. Gestalt techniques can be beneficial in drawing out awareness of the here and now which can show the client that the pattern may be part of an old attachment rather than a reflection of who they are today. 

Many times, ruined relationships are just under a hostage takeover by a lack of effective communication.  Couples will cite loss of sex, loss of time, and loss of money but the culprit that we the people in this country find the most challenging is effective communication.  My entire life has been spent learning how to get to a communicated "yes".  For that reason, I have directed the focus of my entire education on effective communication and now I can coach my clients with what I have gained. 

This is a concern for anyone leaving a long-term marriage or relationship.  In some cases, adults that have made an extreme body transformation need some coaching on social interactions with the opposite sex.  

This involves some of the verbal coaching first and then when comfort and trust is built, we can move into social situations to practice in a variety of scenarios that may come up which will give the client some power to manage the way they approach possible reactions.  

Many times clients are stuck in a rut or feel like there is something wrong with them because they have lost the desire for intimacy.  Research shows that introducing touch and smell - sometimes new toys - will be the necessary change agent for the relationship.  This type of coaching is best relayed through direct experience therefore we discuss and experiment with  aromatherapy, candles, and a variety of sensual skin tools  during the session.  

On forums that I am on related to sex coaching and relationships, I often hear from couples that have discussed fantasies, many times, almost hinging their desires on the fantasy- and now wish to make it/them real but truly do not know how and it has begun to create conflict in the relationship.  Couples can benefit from verbal coaching but also some work with touch, senses and introduction to toys and other tools that can bridge into fantasy fulfillment.